This contrast can be seen through their views on the idea of ​​perfectionism, the issue of self-esteem, and the issue of a child's gratitude towards his parents. Hanna Rosin believes that finding happiness is the true definition of success; having a child with modest success is better than “unhappy”, “selfish with high achievement”. Amy Chua, on the other hand, believes that arming your children with confidence, work habits and exceptional skills is the best way to prepare and protect them in the world of work.