In my high school, the heteronormative culture of sex that heavily promoted masculinity through sexual behavior resulted in a double standard between women and men. Dude, You're a Faggot quotes Renold: “students participate in a 'process of heterosexualization' in which children present themselves as 'normal' girls or boys through discourses of heterosexuality” (p. 26). Since so much of what we do in high school is to impress others, or at least to appear normal to avoid insults or social exclusion, most of my peers (and myself) tried hard to fit in and respect the rules. norms. Popularity for boys was based largely on the frequency of sexual behavior and the “attractiveness” of the girl with whom they had intimate relationships. Pascoe points out that “boys and girls engage in interactional rituals to achieve masculine identities, which are, in large part, based on similar homophobic and heterosexualizing processes” (p. 28). This describes very well how we interacted with each other in my high school. Conversely, the more people the women had sexual relations with, the more social reaction they received. According to Stombler and Baunach (2014), highly sexually active men are generally not shamed and sometimes praised for their sexual behavior, while women with “too many” partners are stigmatized (p. 71). While men are socialized to present their masculinity through sexuality, women grow up learning about all the negative consequences of sexuality. Nestlé's My Mother Liked to Fuck highlights the social consequences of being a woman who is open about enjoying sex (1983). Such consequences include harsh judgments, social exclusion and even rape. Lorde's The Uses of the Erotic presents that sexuality is something women are taught to hide (2016). I remember being told I was a "slut" for making out with someone and sleeping on the same couch