I usually didn't self-disclose because I thought that if my kids thought I hadn't done anything wrong, then they wouldn't have done anything wrong, and they were good kids . But now my kids think I'm missing something and sometimes they laugh at me and make fun of me. I usually told them about someone else, their story and what happened to that person. I have noticed a difference in my behavior with my grandchildren compared to my own children, but I am older and have more knowledge. My older grandson sometimes starts to say something, then shuts down and doesn't want to talk, but later I approach him with a different approach with different words, and almost every time he falls for it and tells me what's happening it's happening. But then I tell him about his mother and his uncle and the things they did, so he doesn't feel alone. So I've learned that using your words and thinking about what you're going to say first really helps. My role-play with self-disclosure: Mark: He tells me the story of his accident with his father's truck. Consultant; I'd like to make sure you feel okay, you got into an accident in your dad's truck while you were driving, am I right? Mark: Yes Lawyer: You're afraid to tell her and you told your mother that she'll kill you when she finds out, and so far am I right? Mark: